How To Write Headlines that Get Your Dating Profile Noticed.

Copyright 2006 Jayne Parke

In order for you to get other online daters to stop and read your profile you need to create an attention grabbing opening line, often referred to as a tagline or headline.

Do not underestimate the importance of having a headline. Besides your photo, it is one of the main factors in determining whether another dater will give your profile a second look.

Studies show that if online daters don't find anything to attract their attention in around 10 seconds or less, they move on to something else.

You probably do the same, we all do. Just think about this for a minute: When you read the newspaper or magazine, what draws your attention to a particular article or feature? Yes it's the headline. Its the headline that causes you to either keep reading or move on to another story or article.

Now you may not be consciously aware of this, but your mind filters out information that's not relevant to you, and at the same time you are drawn into information that is relevant and appealing. You are actually drawn in or away by the headline.

Which means your headline has just one job: To stop your reader in their tracks, and force them to read the second sentence of your ad.

There are two ways to apply this simple principle to your profile headline:

1. Using Self Interest Headlines - This type of Headline focuses on benefits that will interest the reader. It telegraphs the benefits that they will receive if they stick around. It is also very effective.

Online daters tend to scan through profile headlines and are only drawn to the ones that offer them a benefit of some sort. Understand that one of the things going through the readers mind is: "what in it for me?" If you can answer that question for them in your headline you will have grabbed their interest. So offer benefits, appeal to your readers desires and emotions and offer to fulfill their needs in your headline.

By doing this you will be able to bypass their mental filtering systems and get their full attention!

2. Using Curiosity Headlines – This type of headline arouses the readers’ curiosity so they are compelled to read further. Asking intriguing questions is a great way for you to achieve this and draw them in. Curiosity is one of the strongest emotive incentives. You should use it, and use it wisely.

When you arouse your readers curiosity, they will be compelled to read further into your profile. If you write with passion and emotion your readers will feel it to. Try to create the exact energy of what you want.

A great headline is not always about you. Remember this; your readers won’t really give a damn about exactly what you are looking for or how tall or blonde you are unless it gratifies them to do so. You want to give them instant gratification. Give it to them with your headline.

A powerful headline takes advantage of your readers curiosity. Appeal to their emotions and watch your responses grow.

Here are a few guidelines on what to avoid.

1. Avoid anything with sexual connotations or innuendos like "sex goddess" or " great in bed"

2. Avoid obvious statements like "looking for true love" or "looking for soul-mate"

3. Avoid anything un-imaginative like "hi, I'm Gemma" or "hello, my name is Wayne"

4. Avoid pleading headlines like "please read my profile" or "please don't ignore me"

5. Avoid anything negative like "losers don't apply" or "no liars please"

When you take the above guidelines into consideration you will greatly increase the chances of your profile actually getting read!

Online Dating Tips: Creating a great dating profile.

Each dating site has lots and lots of dating profiles... but only some of them make the site alluring for the other people. And it's important to create one these super profiles to make the most of online dating. So continue reading to know a couple of secrets of how to achieve success in the online dating.

Of course, the most important in the dating profile is a nice picture of you. In the most cases the appearance of the penpal get number 1 priority, the content of the letter sets the second position.

So, a good photo of you will certainly allow you to stand out the competition of the huge amounts of the profiles on the dating site. This is something like a "first impression" and you really get only one chance. Sure, there's no doubt that your standards should be really high. You should be very critical to yourself while chosing the photos to your profile, make sure that your pics will make a very good impression or even amaze your future penpals.

The thing is – even if you are really attractive and handsome in the real life but created a really bad profile – the people you correspond with will remember the worst of you. That's why, my advice is - throw away your bad pictures and post two or three the best ones. It's a simple logic that the photos should reflect you personality in the best manner, unless you are searching for nothing serious and you just want to waste your time. It very common to post two really good photos of you - a headshot and a full length shot, of course you can post the photos of your children (if you have ones) and maybe the picture of the favourite part of your house, a pet.

Of course not only your pictures attract people – you should attach a little story about yourself. This can be about some your interests, the way of life, a description of a person you are looking for on the dating site... whatever that will show your personality from the good side and will help you to find that special person you are looking for.

The other important thing in the online dating is the first letter – you should make it very very good to make your penpal reply to you. This is like the first impression as well. If your first letter is boring and has nothing interesting, then the person you are writing to most likely won't bother answering you. With the first message you should make a person interested in you. Before writing the letter you should explore the profile of the person you want to write to, and I advise you to mention why you think you will be a good match, what you like the most her or his profile (it can be something in the appearance, some common interests, etc.), feel free to express your thoughts on this or that matter.

Of course you shouldn't write to much in the first letter but you are always free to ask questions. Be short-spoken and vivid in your letter. You should write the most you can with as little as possible. Do not tell about yourself just everything – keep a room for the mystery, it's much more attractive than openness.

Well, I hope my pieces of advice will help you to create a great dating profile and to find a person you really deserve. Good luck!

Get maximum of dating online

Recently, when online dating wasn't so popular as nowadays, many people didn't took it seriously. But now more and more people prefer online dating services to find their second half.

There are enough reasons why online dating is better than traditional one. It is easier, faster and inexpensive – you can sit in your armchair by the fireplace communicating with someone very pleasant and you can spend as much time as you like.

So here are some tips for you to make the most from online dating.

Number 1. Find the reliable web site.

There are so many online dating sites that it is easy to get confused. So you have to define what exactly you are looking for. Some sites are created for people interested in serious relationships, others - for people searching for lighter non-committal dating, the third ones promote international, intercultural dating or common interests and beliefs relationships.

Be careful – some services are scamming men in order to get money, so you should look for a very reliable service to start your Russian girl research. It will be useful to make some phone calls to make sure that or this site will give you what you want, it's also important to explain to the matchmaker what you are looking for.

Number 2. Create your profile.

The first thing you'll have to do while using dating services - is to create your personal dating profile. You will generally be asked to provide some basic information (weight, height, occupation, etc.) as well as have an opportunity to talk a little bit about yourself and post some photos.

Sometimes visiting this sites have something in common with job-hunting and so your dating profile and resume may look alike. And indeed, this is your chance to put your best foot forward. Just be honest concerning your description, what you are searching for and what you like and dislike. It will be a lot easier for people to respond, when they can relate to your interests and preferences.

Adding a picture to your profile is recommended - it will make people feel more comfortable and one step closer to getting to know you. The same principle applies to photos – be honest. Showing a picture that looks nothing like you only puts you at risk of deceiving the person you are interested in and leaves little chances for future relationship after your meeting.

Number 3. The research itself.

All dating sites offer several criteria by which you can browse the profiles. This makes the online date search very convenient.

Number 4. Making initial contact.

Finally, some girl has attracted your attention. With online dating sites you don't have to worry about face to face rejection, so common in the club world. You don't have to stumble over your words and have plenty of time to think of the best way to approach the dashing beauty and learn more about her through her profile.

However, don't write too much – chances are you won't score many good points for that. Make your first message short and sweet. Be specific:

- if you comment on her looks, mention what you liked (eyes, smile);

- make a point of referencing her profile, it will show her you've read what she has to say and that you are attentive;

- find things in common, it will make it easier to generate a response from her.

You'd better do not write to too many people at once. While all information is nicely stored and kept on the website, it can get quite confusing trying to keep track of who said what and being genuine in your replies. It's best to reply quickly to grab and keep women's interest. You may also find it helpful to have a folder for each of the ladies you are corresponding with to store photos, correspondence and notes for each one of them.

Number 5. Moving ahead.

You wrote to her and she replied, congratulations! The main thing now is not to get too carried away and remain yourself. Share information about who you are, but also be courteous and take interest in other person's life. Don't try to talk like someone else, you risk sounding artificial and, what's worse, making your date feel disappointed once you communicate over phone or in person. Take it easy, you will know if things are going well!

Number 6. When things aren't so fine.

While there is a high rate of people finding each other, forming strong relationships and getting close, chances are there will be times when the person you are interested in may not reciprocate. Don't take it too close to heart. Whatever reasons they have for not responding or stopping communication, it is their loss. Besides, there is still plenty of fish in the sea, the next of which can happen to be the one you were looking for all along.

Should you be on the other end of the equation and decide to stop communicating with someone, remember one thing: there is never any reason to be rude. Put yourself in that person's shoes and think of what you would not want to hear if you were them, consider their feelings.

It is practically impossible to forsee every situation you might appear in the online dating world. But it is possible to make the most of it by being honest, thoughtful, positive, flexible, funny and considerate. Be yourself and treat others the way you'd want them to treat you, and you are guaranteed to benefit from online communication any way it goes.