Kamis, 26 Juli 2012
4 Rules to transform an long distance love on the Internet into an normal relationship
Let's suppose that you are meeting someone online and that person seem to be the mach of your life, but is living far away from you. Does it worth to spend your time to a long distance relationship with this person? But, what if this person is realy your soulmate?
You may be surprised how much a relationship can grow if you work at it. If you know and aply some simple rules, your relationship can turn out to be one of the most successful and happy relationships that ever existed.
Distance, combined with telephone calls and writing, electronically or through snail-mail, can foster an enviable intimacy which results from learning about another's qualities, values, ways of thinking, sensitivities, dreams, and aspirations. This type of intimacy can make your coming together much more special.
As if relationships weren't complicated enough, having them across a long distance is extremely challenging. Just read the following ruls and try to keep in mind and aply:
1.The quality of the relationship is more likely to increase if both people develop the ability to share feelings openly with each other. Do not feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her, he or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.
2. Make the relationship a high priority. Avoid canceling reunions or putting off a phone call.
3. Start to keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards and even faxes. And when you do make contact, don't just stick to love talk, but keep each other informed on the day-to-day aspects of your lives. This way you each stay aware of how the other is thinking, feeling and developing. Late-night talks and thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is most important in the long-term: your goals, values and dreams.
4. Be prepared to be flexible. Tell your partner of how much you think about and love him or her will score high points, making them miss you more with the constant urge to see you. But don't be posesive. Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and none of those will help the relationship develope successfully.
If your partner truly wants to be with you, then they would not want to wait forever to have you next to her or him. As long as you both trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, keep in touch, your relationship can turn out into a happy normal relationship.
Ultimately, a normal relationship is the goal, doesn't it.