As you can see this is going to be a very controversial article. Hey, I never, ever have anything but, controversial thoughts. what can I say? I was born this way. BITE ME!
Anyway, as I was drying my hair, my brain started to work. (scary!!) I was thinking about a few comments that I had heard from guys here and there regarding, "Why Pretty Girls Cry". Of course I had to question them in order to get them to reveal their thoughts on the subject. I asked them a simple question- "Do you think that women that are pretty dislike other pretty women?" Hmmm, I received a lot of answers immediately, without any thought, seemingly. The answer that was the most popular was.."NO!!" I know so many women that are beautiful and the last thing that they would think about theirself, is exactly that. They cannot see what we see in them at all. They think every other women in the world has more to offer.
My next question was, do you think that women constantly compare themselves to other woman? This question took no time at all for them to answer. "Yes and no, They think that we (men) are comparing them to other women. And that's what gets them all weird". Additionally, "They think that we are lusting after them in our minds or wondering what they would look like naked. They compare themselves with other women, yes, but in more of a way to improve themselves for us. My girlfriend compares herself with women that do not even come close to her on a any scale and still finds reason to knock herself down".
Hmmm, I seem to be saying that a few times, but it's because women are so generalized. If one women is one way with one guy, he thinks all women are like that. When women generalize men, they call us male bashers, or feminists. What do we call guys that generalize us from their past experiences?
So whats up with the fact that pretty girls really do not look at themselves as pretty girls? Is it something from their past?. (seems like the age old excuse for everything)
I, myself remember a guy asking me that exact question. "Why do all the pretty girls think they are ugly?". I shrugged. I really had no answer. I never put myself on that level, of being pretty that is.
In all the research that I have been doing on this subject, I will tell you this, `beauty is in the eyes of the beholder`, nothing more, nothing less. If we look in the mirror and see no beauty, that is in our minds only. Not in our partners minds or a strangers mind. We are constantly supported by our spouses and we constantly mistrust their comments. Why? When are we going to start to see ourselves as a beautiful being? A UNIQUE being. A one and only being.
Ladies when you cross paths with another that you feel is way above you, for whatever reason, shoes, hair, dress, body, or just her smile, think this; she is also looking at you and seeing something in you that she lacks and would love to have.
Also, it's part of us, built into us, and born with it in our brain to compare.
Some will look for weakness or flaws in others just to make themselves feel good. That is a negative comparison. It is not a bad thing to want to be a better person. We just have to be very careful to not take it to an extreme that blinds others to our thoughts and intentions.
Men tend to automatically call us jealous when we reveal our thoughts, if another women is involved. Another mystery in my mind; Jeesh, we are not always that worried, OK. So get off your ego trip guys. Sometimes we are genuinely curious as to why we see and feel the vibes we get from you. Also as you read earlier, just maybe, we care and we want to improve ourselves. Maybe men should try and do that sometime. Then they will actually see where we are coming from.
Another thing I have noticed is that men are very good at making us believe that we are doing what they say. Why is that? Is it to win an argument and feel totally in control of our thoughts or is it that they themselves feel vulnerable at times and less than perfect to us. Men have told me that they do not look at other men and wish they were like them. Well duh! Would that not make them female? Why does everyone try so hard to give excuses to genders?. Why can't we just accept and appreciate each other for our differences? Why do we have to be so damn equal on everything?
Females are soft, sensual, sensitive, emotional, passionate, intelligent creatures. That's us, and we are tired of apologizing for how we were born. We work overtime trying to understand our male counterparts. We are what makes them tick. They are what make us tick. We want nothing more than to be their everything. What is so wrong with that? Men are strong, protective, sexual, and feeling beings.
Men and women together make a very nice song.
These are just my thoughts as you all know, so take them with a grain of salt. Has society totally confused what real people are all about, to the point that some do not even know they are pretty? That is a sad thought. Some may think that I have nothing good to say. Well I actually have a lot of good to say. I wish that life was a perfect world. It is not even close. My thoughts tend to deal with the real world and it is not all that great for some. One can not go up until they have gone all the way down.
We are all pretty in some ways. People think way to much about the outer physical appearance and I wish that I could meet the first person that started that negative seed. When did things get so out of proportion?
There are too many worries and too many unhappy women out there. If I can at least help one woman see how pretty she is, then my course is set. Ladies we are all a gift, one that is truly cherished by our loved ones. Never let that go neglected. Remember, you choose your thoughts. You are the pretty girl that your man wants, desires, and will spend the rest of his life with. It's who we are that makes us the perfect woman. Not just what we look like, because we are not always going to look the same. Everyone grows older and everyone changes their outward appearance. What does stay the same, is who we are inside. Our REAL person is what it's all about. I will end with this thought:
ONE ALWAYS THINKS OTHERS ARE HAPPIER!
Dorothy Lafrinere
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Kamis, 24 Mei 2012
Immigration Fuels Canada's Multi-Cultural Growth As A Nation
Immigration, the entrance of people into a country for the purpose of settling there, has always played a central role in Canada's history. In comparison to many other nations, immigration into Canada has generally been viewed as being much easier than in other countries. Canada as whole seems to be a favorable place for immigrants to gain naturalization. Since Canada is a relatively new country, the goal of Canadian officials for some time was to infuse the land with many different cultures and peoples, and its lenient immigration process played a key role in this.
Thus far, this system has worked as Canada has a very diverse group of ethnicities, including 200 ethnic groups total, of which 34 ethnic groups boast at least one hundred thousand members each. Of those 34 groups, 10 have over 1,000,000 people, or 13.4% of the population. According to the 2001 census, the breakdown was Chinese (3.5% of the population), South Asian (3.1%), Black (2.2%), and Filipino (1.0%).
As one can see, Canada is a truly multicultural nation that cannot truly trace their heritage to just one cultural background, race. Each current crop of Canadians can trace their heritage to someone that wasn’t a true Canadian national. The whole country is built upon immigrants. Thanks to centuries of immigration, Canadians are a very multicultural and diverse group of people. Although the progress was positive for many years, attitudes toward immigration are changing, and restrictions are beginning to be placed on who may enter the country.
Mostly, immigrants also have higher levels of educational attainment than people born in Canada. Yet, in virtually every urban region, a far higher proportion of recent immigrants were employed in jobs with lower skill requirements, than the jobs held by Canadian-born citizens. The level of equality has yet to permeate into everyday society.
Although most immigrants are pleased to be in Canada, most still have difficulties finding adequate jobs, and dealing with the language barrier. The majority of people immigrating into Canada remain positive about their decision to come into Canada, in light of the better standard of living. They are extremely pleased with an increased quality of life, overall peace and happiness, and the opportunity to offer their families a brighter future with more hope for success.
According to Wikipedia, in 2001, there were 250,640 immigrants into Canada. These elevated numbers are the reason that Canada has the highest per capita immigration rate in the world. At no time has immigration played a greater role in Canadian history than during the twentieth century. In fact, without the immigrants who have settled in all areas of the country since the turn of the century, Canada would not be the culturally rich, prosperous, and progressive nation that it is today.
So much so is the lure to gain entry into Canada that people sometimes take extreme measures, even if those measures are against the law. Illegal immigration into Canada is one problem that is deeply affecting this country. So big is the problem that recently, police discovered Chinese immigrants being illegally smuggled into Canada inside shipping crates at a Vancouver, British Columbia port. Such incidents go to highlight the measures and risks that some immigrants are willing to take to get into Canada. There is a growing business of trying to smuggle immigrants into the country, many of which are hoping to gain political asylum. Unfortunately, the fate of most of these illegal immigrants is usually deportation. For most of the illegal immigrants, their only option is to prove to Canadian officials that they should be protected under refugee status, and most illegal immigrants often apply to be granted refugee status when they are captured.
In fact, an estimated 18 million Chinese look to immigrate out of the China, and they will take any risk to achieve this goal. A majority of these illegal immigrants come from China's eastern coastal province of Fujian and most flock toward Canada and the United States. Once in Canada, many of the illegal Chinese immigrants can disappear into a massive underground network, where they must work to pay off their indentured servitude to the smugglers. This Chinese smuggling system is a $10 billion business.
Each year, approximately 600 illegal Chinese immigrants arrive on Canada's west coast seeking refugee status through legal channels, after having promised smugglers $60,000 per person to get them into the country.
For illegal immigrants migrating to Canada, Vancouver, British Columbia is a popular destination. Vancouver’s metro area is home to more than two million residents, and the high population makes it very easy for illegal immigrants to blend into the environment unseen and unnoticed.
For legal immigrants, Vancouver is also a popular destination, because several major publications consistently rate Vancouver as one of the three most livable cities in the world.
The huge waves of immigrants that have entered Canada over the last couple centuries have helped the country develop a much more multi-ethnic outlook and a much richer and more vibrant culture. Going forward, it is expected that immigrants will continue to play a vital part in influencing Canada's social, economic, and political culture.
Thus far, this system has worked as Canada has a very diverse group of ethnicities, including 200 ethnic groups total, of which 34 ethnic groups boast at least one hundred thousand members each. Of those 34 groups, 10 have over 1,000,000 people, or 13.4% of the population. According to the 2001 census, the breakdown was Chinese (3.5% of the population), South Asian (3.1%), Black (2.2%), and Filipino (1.0%).
As one can see, Canada is a truly multicultural nation that cannot truly trace their heritage to just one cultural background, race. Each current crop of Canadians can trace their heritage to someone that wasn’t a true Canadian national. The whole country is built upon immigrants. Thanks to centuries of immigration, Canadians are a very multicultural and diverse group of people. Although the progress was positive for many years, attitudes toward immigration are changing, and restrictions are beginning to be placed on who may enter the country.
Mostly, immigrants also have higher levels of educational attainment than people born in Canada. Yet, in virtually every urban region, a far higher proportion of recent immigrants were employed in jobs with lower skill requirements, than the jobs held by Canadian-born citizens. The level of equality has yet to permeate into everyday society.
Although most immigrants are pleased to be in Canada, most still have difficulties finding adequate jobs, and dealing with the language barrier. The majority of people immigrating into Canada remain positive about their decision to come into Canada, in light of the better standard of living. They are extremely pleased with an increased quality of life, overall peace and happiness, and the opportunity to offer their families a brighter future with more hope for success.
According to Wikipedia, in 2001, there were 250,640 immigrants into Canada. These elevated numbers are the reason that Canada has the highest per capita immigration rate in the world. At no time has immigration played a greater role in Canadian history than during the twentieth century. In fact, without the immigrants who have settled in all areas of the country since the turn of the century, Canada would not be the culturally rich, prosperous, and progressive nation that it is today.
So much so is the lure to gain entry into Canada that people sometimes take extreme measures, even if those measures are against the law. Illegal immigration into Canada is one problem that is deeply affecting this country. So big is the problem that recently, police discovered Chinese immigrants being illegally smuggled into Canada inside shipping crates at a Vancouver, British Columbia port. Such incidents go to highlight the measures and risks that some immigrants are willing to take to get into Canada. There is a growing business of trying to smuggle immigrants into the country, many of which are hoping to gain political asylum. Unfortunately, the fate of most of these illegal immigrants is usually deportation. For most of the illegal immigrants, their only option is to prove to Canadian officials that they should be protected under refugee status, and most illegal immigrants often apply to be granted refugee status when they are captured.
In fact, an estimated 18 million Chinese look to immigrate out of the China, and they will take any risk to achieve this goal. A majority of these illegal immigrants come from China's eastern coastal province of Fujian and most flock toward Canada and the United States. Once in Canada, many of the illegal Chinese immigrants can disappear into a massive underground network, where they must work to pay off their indentured servitude to the smugglers. This Chinese smuggling system is a $10 billion business.
Each year, approximately 600 illegal Chinese immigrants arrive on Canada's west coast seeking refugee status through legal channels, after having promised smugglers $60,000 per person to get them into the country.
For illegal immigrants migrating to Canada, Vancouver, British Columbia is a popular destination. Vancouver’s metro area is home to more than two million residents, and the high population makes it very easy for illegal immigrants to blend into the environment unseen and unnoticed.
For legal immigrants, Vancouver is also a popular destination, because several major publications consistently rate Vancouver as one of the three most livable cities in the world.
The huge waves of immigrants that have entered Canada over the last couple centuries have helped the country develop a much more multi-ethnic outlook and a much richer and more vibrant culture. Going forward, it is expected that immigrants will continue to play a vital part in influencing Canada's social, economic, and political culture.
Kamis, 01 Maret 2012
What Am I Doing Wrong In Relationships?
They say breaking up is hard to do. Break-ups are very common in fact sadly enough, it happens to everyone at some point in time. For many women, relationships coming to an end are hard due to lack of closure. So very often, they are left wondering what they did wrong.
While I can't be a miracle worker this area I can provide some very common mistakes that women tend to make. It’s not complete, but it's definitely a good insight. Continue to read and evaluate how you’ve been doing on the dating game.
1. Thinking you can change who he is.
Many women get involved with men with undesirable habits, and cling to the relationship hoping that he’ll improve with time. They tend to feel like the man requires the woman's help in order to change.
Well, that's actually not how it works. You see, women are attracted to a man not by how nice or good he is, but by gut feelings. She 'feels' that her man is nice and good deep inside, and that they can remedy the shortcomings if they tried hard enough.
Sadly, this gut feeling doesn’t exactly translate to a deep connection with him. In other words, trying to change him is like trying to teach a pig to sing - it wastes time, it doesn’t work, and it annoys the pig.
Gut feelings are well and good, but it’s better to trust your intuition instead.
2. Assuming good looks are enough.
Women tend to think that men only care about an attractive physical appearance. Also, many women think that men aren't very verbally communicative. Therefore many women resort to using provacative body language to gain a man's attention which gives off the wrong impression.
It’s not that simple. Looks may be most obvious way to get the train started, but it's hardly the best way. The right thing to do is to use a combination of verbal communication and body language. It takes practice, but a man is less likely to be smitten by a beautiful woman than by a beautiful woman who can also carry a good conversation.
3. Acting like someone that you are not.
I may be stating the obvious, but it's worth repeating: Men aren't happy in a relationship if the woman isn't happy herself. A woman should never lose herself by trying to satisfy a man's every need and desire. A man can't have respect for a woman that isn't confident of who she is. Acting like a prostitute or a slave won't get you anywhere.
4. Being too honest too fast.
Almost all successful,physically attractive, and single guys have healthy dating lives. So women who raise the most red flags are the ones that give too much information on the second or third date. For example: women who say, 'I really feel like I'm falling for you', too easily and too early. It gives off an idea that she’s a clingy type who rushes into relationships.
The smartest thing to do would be to ease up and let the relationship mature on it's own.
5. Not seeing the signs.
Men subconsciously show signs that indicating how evolved your relationship is. The signs give clues on how ready he is to go further in your relationship. BY watching him closely and accurately judging what he says, you may find out where he is coming from.
(a) The Social level - he talks about life in general, what he's up to and how he's doing. (b) The Emotional level - he starts giving clues that he's ready to be emotionally available to you. (c) The Physical level - he begins to tell you what and why in reference to the things he likes about you whether it be your body or clothes, etc.. (d) The Love level - he lets you know that he is in it for the long run.
Well, here are the signs. So learn them and know how to answer them for a better relationship next time.
While I can't be a miracle worker this area I can provide some very common mistakes that women tend to make. It’s not complete, but it's definitely a good insight. Continue to read and evaluate how you’ve been doing on the dating game.
1. Thinking you can change who he is.
Many women get involved with men with undesirable habits, and cling to the relationship hoping that he’ll improve with time. They tend to feel like the man requires the woman's help in order to change.
Well, that's actually not how it works. You see, women are attracted to a man not by how nice or good he is, but by gut feelings. She 'feels' that her man is nice and good deep inside, and that they can remedy the shortcomings if they tried hard enough.
Sadly, this gut feeling doesn’t exactly translate to a deep connection with him. In other words, trying to change him is like trying to teach a pig to sing - it wastes time, it doesn’t work, and it annoys the pig.
Gut feelings are well and good, but it’s better to trust your intuition instead.
2. Assuming good looks are enough.
Women tend to think that men only care about an attractive physical appearance. Also, many women think that men aren't very verbally communicative. Therefore many women resort to using provacative body language to gain a man's attention which gives off the wrong impression.
It’s not that simple. Looks may be most obvious way to get the train started, but it's hardly the best way. The right thing to do is to use a combination of verbal communication and body language. It takes practice, but a man is less likely to be smitten by a beautiful woman than by a beautiful woman who can also carry a good conversation.
3. Acting like someone that you are not.
I may be stating the obvious, but it's worth repeating: Men aren't happy in a relationship if the woman isn't happy herself. A woman should never lose herself by trying to satisfy a man's every need and desire. A man can't have respect for a woman that isn't confident of who she is. Acting like a prostitute or a slave won't get you anywhere.
4. Being too honest too fast.
Almost all successful,physically attractive, and single guys have healthy dating lives. So women who raise the most red flags are the ones that give too much information on the second or third date. For example: women who say, 'I really feel like I'm falling for you', too easily and too early. It gives off an idea that she’s a clingy type who rushes into relationships.
The smartest thing to do would be to ease up and let the relationship mature on it's own.
5. Not seeing the signs.
Men subconsciously show signs that indicating how evolved your relationship is. The signs give clues on how ready he is to go further in your relationship. BY watching him closely and accurately judging what he says, you may find out where he is coming from.
(a) The Social level - he talks about life in general, what he's up to and how he's doing. (b) The Emotional level - he starts giving clues that he's ready to be emotionally available to you. (c) The Physical level - he begins to tell you what and why in reference to the things he likes about you whether it be your body or clothes, etc.. (d) The Love level - he lets you know that he is in it for the long run.
Well, here are the signs. So learn them and know how to answer them for a better relationship next time.
Kamis, 30 Juni 2011
What Can You Do When Disaster Strikes Somewhere Else?
Several of the largest natural disasters have occurred recently. These include the earthquake and tsunami in South East Asia and Hurricane Katrina in the Southern United States. Thousands of disasters occur every year. They all don't affect thousands of people, but the impact is as dire for each one that has to experience it. Each time a disaster occurs our hearts go out to those affected. However, what can we do when we are many miles away?
The following are some of the ways you might contribute to others affected by a disaster:
1. Pray. If you believe that miracles happen every day, as I do, then prayer should be at the top of your list.
2. Give Blood. There is always a need for blood. Especially when major disasters occur. Contact the Red Cross to learn about giving blood and schedule a time to donate at 1-800-GIVELIFE.
3. Send Notes. Give hope to the victims of the disaster as well as the relief workers by sending an encouraging note. If you do not have specific individuals to send to, send your notes to the local area through relief agencies, churches, schools and newspapers.
4. Volunteer. Go with a group to the location of the disaster to be a part of the rebuilding process. This could be with a local church or organization. You can also donate your time to volunteer organizations that respond to disasters. One of the first to respond is the Salvation Army. You can register your desire to volunteer by contacting your local Salvation Army office.
5. Donate Funds. Make a financial contribution to organizations that support the victims of the disaster. The Red Cross responds to thousands of disasters each year. You can donate at 1-800-HELP-NOW.
6. Donate Items. When disaster strikes, people can be without necessities for a long time. You can help by donating some of these items. If you want to support relief efforts by providing items, one of the best ways is to build and send relief kits. The United Methodist Committee on Relief and Operation Blessing are two organizations that teach you how to make the relief kits and where to send them. You can contact these organizations at 1-800-814-8765 and 1-757-226-3401, respectively.
7. Provide Shelter. If you are a property owner with vacant rental housing, you might help those driven from their home. Contact Disaster Housing Resources Online to learn more and register your available space.
8. Have a Fundraiser. If you cannot afford to donate funds, conduct a fundraising event. The event does not need to be extravagant. I am aware of adults and kids that raised money for a cause by having a yard sale and selling lemonade.
9. Purchase Items. Shop at stores and eat at restaurants that donate a portion of their profits to support disaster relief efforts. You will discover several businesses making this kind of contribution following major disasters.
This list is a sample of things you could do. I challenge you to identify two or more ways you plan to contribute to disaster relief efforts. Act on them starting today.
The following are some of the ways you might contribute to others affected by a disaster:
1. Pray. If you believe that miracles happen every day, as I do, then prayer should be at the top of your list.
2. Give Blood. There is always a need for blood. Especially when major disasters occur. Contact the Red Cross to learn about giving blood and schedule a time to donate at 1-800-GIVELIFE.
3. Send Notes. Give hope to the victims of the disaster as well as the relief workers by sending an encouraging note. If you do not have specific individuals to send to, send your notes to the local area through relief agencies, churches, schools and newspapers.
4. Volunteer. Go with a group to the location of the disaster to be a part of the rebuilding process. This could be with a local church or organization. You can also donate your time to volunteer organizations that respond to disasters. One of the first to respond is the Salvation Army. You can register your desire to volunteer by contacting your local Salvation Army office.
5. Donate Funds. Make a financial contribution to organizations that support the victims of the disaster. The Red Cross responds to thousands of disasters each year. You can donate at 1-800-HELP-NOW.
6. Donate Items. When disaster strikes, people can be without necessities for a long time. You can help by donating some of these items. If you want to support relief efforts by providing items, one of the best ways is to build and send relief kits. The United Methodist Committee on Relief and Operation Blessing are two organizations that teach you how to make the relief kits and where to send them. You can contact these organizations at 1-800-814-8765 and 1-757-226-3401, respectively.
7. Provide Shelter. If you are a property owner with vacant rental housing, you might help those driven from their home. Contact Disaster Housing Resources Online to learn more and register your available space.
8. Have a Fundraiser. If you cannot afford to donate funds, conduct a fundraising event. The event does not need to be extravagant. I am aware of adults and kids that raised money for a cause by having a yard sale and selling lemonade.
9. Purchase Items. Shop at stores and eat at restaurants that donate a portion of their profits to support disaster relief efforts. You will discover several businesses making this kind of contribution following major disasters.
This list is a sample of things you could do. I challenge you to identify two or more ways you plan to contribute to disaster relief efforts. Act on them starting today.
Minggu, 24 April 2011
Loss of a parent | How to Deal With The Grief!
Grief is a great mental pain that occurs after the loss of someone dear to you. You will have to accept the fact that someone so close to you is lost. This pain is really tough to withstand and can't be brought under control. Losses of loved ones like parent, children and spouse have equal intensities of pain. When they are taken away from your life, you will that, you have lost everything in life.
The emotional attachment between children and parents are so high that, children depend on parents for anything and everything. They can't even imagine a situation where their parents are not with them to live the life. Even when children are grown up, they have a tendency to depend on their parents for everything.
Children and parents share everything in life. They live with such closeness that, children love to narrate each incident in their life to their parents. When they share their thoughts and dreams, they feel that they are not alone in the world. Hence the loss of a parent has serious after effects on the life of people.
There are several people who loss their parents in their childhood itself. This makes the child grow in a way that is not acceptable to the society. Children have none to take care of them and they grow in an irresponsible environment. The mental agony of the loss of parents can conquer their mental abilities.
Loss of parents can even happen in the adult hood days. Most parents die before their children. That is children in adult hood have to accept that, the loss of parents are natural phenomenon and they have to live with it. Children never like their parents loosing memory and fainting. Getting old can't be accepted by them. When they try to cherish the days with their parents, they will have to accept the realty that, it is no longer going to happen. Every child likes to spend as many days with their parents as possible. They love to discuss everything with them. But when they understand that, there are no more days with their parents, they cry out in vein.
Loss of a parent can cause great mental grief in people. They slowly changes to people with extreme grievances. Once things go out of control, there are no ways to bring back them in control. So they have to learn to accept the realities of life. They must understand that, life is full of uncertainties and this also is a part of that. It is better not to deny the pain. When you intentionally try to deal with pain, all the thoughts came up suddenly. So it is advisable to redirect your attitude and thoughts to positive aspects of life.
Loss of parents is something that is not under the control of human beings. It is a reality that all people have to accept and face. They can seek the help of experts who will assist them in coming out of the mental stress and pain.
The emotional attachment between children and parents are so high that, children depend on parents for anything and everything. They can't even imagine a situation where their parents are not with them to live the life. Even when children are grown up, they have a tendency to depend on their parents for everything.
Children and parents share everything in life. They live with such closeness that, children love to narrate each incident in their life to their parents. When they share their thoughts and dreams, they feel that they are not alone in the world. Hence the loss of a parent has serious after effects on the life of people.
There are several people who loss their parents in their childhood itself. This makes the child grow in a way that is not acceptable to the society. Children have none to take care of them and they grow in an irresponsible environment. The mental agony of the loss of parents can conquer their mental abilities.
Loss of parents can even happen in the adult hood days. Most parents die before their children. That is children in adult hood have to accept that, the loss of parents are natural phenomenon and they have to live with it. Children never like their parents loosing memory and fainting. Getting old can't be accepted by them. When they try to cherish the days with their parents, they will have to accept the realty that, it is no longer going to happen. Every child likes to spend as many days with their parents as possible. They love to discuss everything with them. But when they understand that, there are no more days with their parents, they cry out in vein.
Loss of a parent can cause great mental grief in people. They slowly changes to people with extreme grievances. Once things go out of control, there are no ways to bring back them in control. So they have to learn to accept the realities of life. They must understand that, life is full of uncertainties and this also is a part of that. It is better not to deny the pain. When you intentionally try to deal with pain, all the thoughts came up suddenly. So it is advisable to redirect your attitude and thoughts to positive aspects of life.
Loss of parents is something that is not under the control of human beings. It is a reality that all people have to accept and face. They can seek the help of experts who will assist them in coming out of the mental stress and pain.
Kamis, 15 April 2010
Choose To Be A Volunteer
One of the oldest adages known to mankind is from both the Golden Rule and the Christian Bible: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." "It is better to give than receive."
In today's society, those sentiments all too often get shoved aside to pave the way for personal ambition, financial success, instant gratification, and other very self rewarding behaviors we've learned. It's all dog-eat-dog and "me first."
However, humanity hasn't really changed that much: A person's most basic, primal instinct is self-preservation and self-protection.
This is certainly understandable; we are inherently "wired" to hang on, to keep on going, to try harder -- even when the "going" gets tough, as they say.
Euphemisms aside, here's a secret, and it's very, very simple: When you show appreciation for others and give of yourself, you will reap innumerable pleasurable benefits -- for yourself, of course -- but more, much more importantly, for the other person or people we're affecting.
Why? Here's another easy answer: Our second most basic instinct is simply this: to help others.
Sure, the world's a mess -- depending on how you look at it. Perspective changes everything, and when you DO change your perspective, say, from negative to positive, you won't believe the effects it will have on both your mental and physical
well-being.
When's the last time you visited a elderly person? Remember, if we're lucky, we're all going to be "elderly" someday. Can you recall how you felt while you were in this person's presence? Can you remember thinking, "I want to make this person happy; nothing else really matters right now"?
Or when you drop a dollar in the blind man's tin bucket as he plays guitar on the street, don't you feel more humble, more a part of the world around you, and closer to everyone, in that one moment? When's the last time a really simple act of kindness on your behalf nearly brought tears to your eyes or gave you a chill?"
Those moments are precious to our very spirit, because they fulfill part of our reason to be here: to switch channels from the "me" category and, even just for a moment, appreciate the light and happiness we can bring to others -- simply by paying attention to them, and simply by sharing who we are with who they are. It's often also said that "No man is an island." John Donne was right. We aren't meant to live alone; that's why there are so many of us!
Giving can be one of the most rewarding experiences in life. Volunteering has a positive effect on your community AND yourself.
One last hint: Don't assume that what would be rewarding to you is going to automatically be rewarding to others. Some people like amusement parks, others like opera. Some like fast food, others are vegetarian. Some people crave time off, others want recognition. You get the picture. Instead of spending money and energy into doing something for someone that they may not like or appreciate, just give of yourself. That's the only priceless gift.
In today's society, those sentiments all too often get shoved aside to pave the way for personal ambition, financial success, instant gratification, and other very self rewarding behaviors we've learned. It's all dog-eat-dog and "me first."
However, humanity hasn't really changed that much: A person's most basic, primal instinct is self-preservation and self-protection.
This is certainly understandable; we are inherently "wired" to hang on, to keep on going, to try harder -- even when the "going" gets tough, as they say.
Euphemisms aside, here's a secret, and it's very, very simple: When you show appreciation for others and give of yourself, you will reap innumerable pleasurable benefits -- for yourself, of course -- but more, much more importantly, for the other person or people we're affecting.
Why? Here's another easy answer: Our second most basic instinct is simply this: to help others.
Sure, the world's a mess -- depending on how you look at it. Perspective changes everything, and when you DO change your perspective, say, from negative to positive, you won't believe the effects it will have on both your mental and physical
well-being.
When's the last time you visited a elderly person? Remember, if we're lucky, we're all going to be "elderly" someday. Can you recall how you felt while you were in this person's presence? Can you remember thinking, "I want to make this person happy; nothing else really matters right now"?
Or when you drop a dollar in the blind man's tin bucket as he plays guitar on the street, don't you feel more humble, more a part of the world around you, and closer to everyone, in that one moment? When's the last time a really simple act of kindness on your behalf nearly brought tears to your eyes or gave you a chill?"
Those moments are precious to our very spirit, because they fulfill part of our reason to be here: to switch channels from the "me" category and, even just for a moment, appreciate the light and happiness we can bring to others -- simply by paying attention to them, and simply by sharing who we are with who they are. It's often also said that "No man is an island." John Donne was right. We aren't meant to live alone; that's why there are so many of us!
Giving can be one of the most rewarding experiences in life. Volunteering has a positive effect on your community AND yourself.
One last hint: Don't assume that what would be rewarding to you is going to automatically be rewarding to others. Some people like amusement parks, others like opera. Some like fast food, others are vegetarian. Some people crave time off, others want recognition. You get the picture. Instead of spending money and energy into doing something for someone that they may not like or appreciate, just give of yourself. That's the only priceless gift.
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