Online dating: the most important step – the first letter.

So as you know, online dating usually based on exchanging letters. So what you gonna do if you seem to find the Russian bride of your dream? How will you make her interested in you? I want to say you – if you want to grab someone's attention, you should write a first letter, a perfect first letter. There are some key points you should keep in mind while writing a letter. So that's what I'm going to tell you.

At the very beginning I should tell you that the first letter makes the first impression that will most certainly affect your future correspondence. So, you should make your first letter positive, bright and exciting.

As I've witnessed a lot of types of correspondence and got the full image of how it should be, I'll give you my own tips. And I wish you success!

Instructions:

• Tip # 1: Be friendly and polite. It's utter important to show respect to the lady, so you should use friendly and polite words in your letter. I also don't advise you to use nicknames and phrases like: "Hey baby" or "My hot girl" in your very first introductory letter, it's better to make a pleasant compliment instead. Don't worry if you really like using these words you can do it a bit later. Just wait till the lady opens up for you.

• Tip # 2: Keep your tone upbeat. Your letter should reflect your great mood and optimism. If you tell her about your difficulties, problems and complaints in your very first letter, it will definitely scare any girl. Show her that you are a happy and cheerful person. You should be positive is like a magnet. This is the example how one man began his letter: "To be quite honest, I have been putting this off as long as possible. I have some friends who applied to dating web-sites and have had some awful experience." This begs to ask, "what are you doing here?" And compare that with this introductory letter: "I've heard online dating is a great way to meet awesome people and that's why I want to meet you." Which one of these letter intros is more attractive? The one who wants to date "losers" or the one that wants to date "winners"? Psychologically everyone wants to be a winner. Consequently in your very first letter, avoid everything negative - be positive.

• Tip # 3: Share information: You can share the information about yourself that you think others will find interesting. Check her profile, find out about her interests. It will be great if she finds out that you have so much in common.

• Tip # 4: Tell the person who you are and what you are about. Don't speak about your disadvantages in your introduction letter. In the contrary you should tell only positive things about yourself, but it's very important to know where to stop, otherwise your story will look like a boasting and you won't get good results. Here are some phrases that will help you to describe you in a best way:

- My best friend describes me as...

- I'm happiest when I'm...

- Here's what you'd find if you looked around my place...

- A great day in my life would include...

- The last great book I read was...

- The last great movie I saw in a cinema was...

- My favorite season is...

- The color I wear most is...

- If you asked me what I'm wearing, I'd say...

- My favorite on-screen love scene is...

- The music I like most is...

- This morning in my car I was listening to...

- Last Saturday night I...

- The last vacation I went on was...

- The most adventurous thing I've ever done was...

- I'm happiest when I'm with someone who...

• Tip # 5: Include information about your age, education and career. According to statistics about 80% of ladies are mostly interested in these three things.

• Tip # 6: You can tell about pets, favourite books, hobbies, children or anything else that might reveal a shared interest with in your new friend.

• Tip # 7: Avoid talking about controversial topics. Not in a first letter. Debates and argues can be a very interesting thing to share in your letters, but only if you've already become closer to each other.

• Tip # 8: Take care not to overwhelm the reader with too much information. Revealing a little bit at a time will pique the reader's interest. Remember that there must be a little secret not only in a lady but in a man as well. You'll reach great results if you make your lady wait for the next chapter of your story impatiently.

• Tip # 9: Ask her questions so she can respond. Don't speak just about yourself in your letter. If you do, your letter won't help you at all. You should remember that it's very important to have a dialog instead of monologue. So you should ask question and answer hers in return.

• Tip # 10: Let your personality show by your choice of words and the descriptions you use. Be descriptive – tell about the things the inspire you, excite you etc.

Tips & Warnings.

• Remember not to share too much too soon. You should wait until she knows you before you reveal your family secrets and problems.

• Use careful judgment when deciding how much information to share with a stranger. You should be always careful when it comes to revealing personal information.

So, that will do for the tips. I hope they'll be useful for you and you find your Russian bride and conquer her by your sweet and kind letters!